Dear Parys:
My name is Candace and I am a high school senior in Texas. I came across your column while perusing the internet and was hoping that you could solicit some advice to me. I’ll be going to college in the Fall but I’ve yet to pick a school. I’ve been reading all of these amazing comments and seeing videos on social media about Historically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs) and I’d love to attend one but my parents want me to attend a PWI (Predominately White Institution) because they say it will afford me more opportunities in life. (Both of them attended PWIs) They keep telling me that the decision is mine but they keep strongly recommending that I attend one of those universities. When I tell them that I’m considering an HBCU they present every negative stereotype about them to detour my decision. I love my parents and I know that they just want the best for me but this decision should be mine and mine alone. Parys what should I do? Should I listen to them or should I follow my heart. Also, being that you attend an HBCU could you present some convincing positive affirmations about HBCUs that I can convey to them so that it may potentially sway their minds?
Desperately Seeking an HBCU
Dear Desperately Seeking an HBCU:
Firstly, already thinking deeply about your future says so much about you. And you’re right, this is a big decision but not only is it a big decision, it’s your decision. College isn’t just about getting a degree, it’s also shaping who you are as a person, and you deserve to be somewhere where you’ll grow and that makes you happy.
Attending an HBCU is truly a life-changing experience. Being around people who see you, understand you, and pour into you is indeed a blessing within itself. At an HBCU, you’re not just a number or a checkbox on a form. You really become family at an HBCU. Your professors know your name, provide help, and push you toward greatness.
As for your parents, know that they love you and they’re scared. HBCUs are usually stereotyped to be dangerous which is not necessarily the case. They may not realize that you’re growing up and will be learning new things without them in a different environment. At the end of the day, Candance, college can be for four years, but the impact of it lasts a lifetime. Trust yourself and follow your heart. You won’t regret it.
