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Recognizing and Healing Relationship Trauma

Modern relationships face challenges such as increased use of technology, lack of communication, and changing societal expectations. Factors such as social media, busy lifestyles, and unrealistic relationship ideals contribute to the complexities that can strain relationships in today’s world.

Social media is the main factor that kills relationships. It has had an impact on relationships and dating, causing jealousy, insecurity and miscommunication. Nowadays, people who are in seemingly perfect relationships post on social media leaving people wondering if their relationship is perfect like what they see on social media. This issue can cause insecurity and lead individuals to compare their relationship to others and have feelings of inadequacy.

Communication can harm relationships when there’s a lack of openness, honesty, and effective expression of emotions. When a man is interested in a woman in the beginning, he does all the things that make her feel special, says the things she wants to hear, and treats her how she deserves to be treated. After a while, the woman will start to wonder and ask the man if they’re in a relationship or not. Unfortunately, most men will admit after a few months or years that they don’t want to be in a relationship. This causes conflict between the man and the woman because the man is doing relationship things but doesn’t want the actual relationship. Being honest in the beginning can save a lot of confusion when it comes to being in a relationship or dating someone. I think that if you’re interested in someone, you should tell them what you want exactly instead of wasting their time.

Materialism is another factor that kills relationships. Women get into relationships or date with expectations that a man is supposed to provide for them and take them on expensive dates. For example, there was a video on TikTok that I saw where a woman was complaining because the guy that she was dating took her on a date to The Cheesecake Factory. There was also another video when a woman was on a date with a guy at The Steak Shack. Not only did both of the women complain about the date but they went live on social media and discussed it, which I thought was very disrespectful. I think if you get asked on a date, you should be grateful for wherever that person takes you, even if it’s not the best.

Unhealed trauma is something else that can impact relationships by influencing individual’s emotional well-being and behavior. If a man or woman has been hurt in their past relationship, it takes a big toll on them. It affects their ability to trust, connect, or express their vulnerability when they get into another relationship. It doesn’t matter if the trauma happened when you were a child or an adult, it will always have an impact on you. If the trauma is not resolved, you can’t go and love someone enough to be in a relationship with them. The healing starts with you. If you want to be in a happy committed relationship, you should heal your traumas first and learn to love yourself.

Considering all of this, I think that these factors form a complex web that can weaken the foundation of relationships, highlighting the necessity of honest communication, gratitude, realistic expectations and personal healing to create fulfilling and lasting connections.

Quashondra Addison
Quashondra Addison
Quashondra Addison is a Freshman Mass Communications major from McComb, Mississippi. She will be a contributor to The Campus Chronicle for the 2023-2024 academic school year.


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