Talkin’ With Tangy (September 15, 2017)


Dear Tangy:


I am a Sophomore Nursing major at a Historically Black College and University (HBCU) in the south. (I prefer not to say the institution’s name) Recently I began taking courses in my major and I simply hate it. I am just not “feeling” this major at all and I would love to change to another major but there’s one huge problem, my MOTHER! She insists that Nursing is a great field and very lucrative and that I would be a fool not to stay in it. She has basically laid the next 20 years of my life out for me. I want to tell her to mind her own business and let me live my own life but out of respect I keep my mouth closed. I mean I hate the sight of blood and that’s definitely one key component that a nurse has to deal with plus I’m not very good with people which is also a key component of becoming a nurse. I guess my question to you is how can I tell my mother that I don’t want to major in this but do it in a way that she will understand my logic in all of this and not be upset with me. Any advice that you give would be helpful. Thank you in advance.


Not Feelin’ It



Dear Not Feelin’ It,

You are indeed faced with a difficult decision. I would suggest that you research your options of what majors and fields are related to nursing that will have compatible salaries and will allow you to still be in the healthcare profession and not have to work directly with the patients. There are several related fields that will allow you to continue in the Healthcare profession. I researched a few for you which are Healthcare Management, Medical Billing, Coding and Teaching just to name a few. You implied that your personality is introverted. Therefore, you should research fields that will not require you to deal directly with a lot of people. I think that if you explain to your mother that you are unhappy with your current major and how you can still obtain compatible salaries in other areas of the Healthcare profession and discussed your thoughts and options articulately with her maybe she will stop being so demanding and help you to decide what is best for your livelihood. Don’t give up.