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The Safe Haven: The Advice Column (September 29, 2023)

Dear Zari:

I am a Freshmen here at Alcorn State and I need your advice. I have this young man in my Oral Communications class who I’ve become smitten with as of late. He is a gorgeous specimen of a human being. He is a member of a fraternity, numerous organizations on campus, highly intelligent, a spokesperson for the students on campus and did I mention how handsome he was. Well, here’s the problem, he doesn’t know that I exist, and I don’t think that I’m his type. I know he has a type because I’ve only seen him in the cafeteria with athletes and cheerleaders. He’s extremely popular here on campus and you’d be hard pressed to find anyone to say a bad word about him. I want to know how can I get him to notice me? I’m not an athlete nor am I a cheerleader. I want to approach him and tell him how much I like him but I’m afraid of rejection and the thought of him telling me no is just too gut wrenching. How can I approach this Adonis Zari and express my true feelings to him without getting my feelings hurt. How can I approach him differently than any other female so he will notice me? HELP ME ZARI!

My Man My Man My Man

Dear My Man My Man My Man: 

First, you need to count yourself in and not out. Just because you see him with cheerleaders and athletes doesn’t mean anything. My mother always told me, “A closed mouth doesn’t get fed.” So the next time that you see him have courage to go up to him and spark a conversation. This will allow you to create an opportunity for connection and getting to know each other better. Also, it can lead to meaningful interactions, shared interests, and even the possibility of developing a deeper relationship. 

Secondly, you need to have confidence. You said it yourself that he doesn’t know that you exist, and you don’t think that you’re his type. Having confidence starts with believing in yourself, embracing your unique qualities and stepping out of your comfort zone. You’ve set up this imaginary barrier where you think that he doesn’t even notice you, but you’ll be surprised if you’re the one he’s waiting on.

Lastly, be yourself. Embrace who you truly are, love who you are, and try not to fit into someone else’s mold or expectations of you because if he really likes you and wants to get to know you, he’s not going to care about your physical traits because he’s going to like you for you. And remember if all doesn’t go well, there’s always more fish in the sea that are ready to be caught.



A'Zarianne Johnson
A'Zarianne Johnson
A'Zarianne Johnson is a Sophomore Mass Communications major from Minden, Louisiana. She will be the Advice Columnist for the 2023-2024 school year.


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