Dear Parys:
I love your column Sis and hope you can help me out. I’m a Junior here at Alcorn and I have a boyfriend who is also a Junior at Alcorn named Montavious (I changed the name to protect his identity) who I ‘think’ I love but I’ve been questioning that lately. Now I know you’re probably scratching your head saying, “think”, well the reason I say that is the reason that I’m writing this letter. Montavious is a great guy, don’t get me wrong, but this guy doesn’t do anything but play video games 24/7. I mean he skips meals, sleep, time with me, and class to play this thing. To say he has a girlfriend is an oxymoron because we rarely spend any time together. I asked him, in a recent rare conversation, what he gets out of playing the game so much and he just replied, “It relaxes me.” When I met him he wasn’t like this but with each waning moment of us being apart I’m slowly but surely falling out of love with him. I don’t want to lose him but it’s like he’s cheating on me with the video game and I’m losing. HELP ME PARYS! Should I fight for this relationship or leave him to his true love, the video game?
Computer Love
Dear Computer Love:
I totally hear you and I think you deserve better than this. For one, playing video games shouldn’t be his only priority; graduating, having a plan A-C, and making time for you as his girlfriend should matter as well. It’s okay for him to have his hobbies and personal time, but if all he does is play that game, is that really someone you want in your life?
It sounds like he’s showing signs that he’s not making you happy or even helping you feel relaxed, whether you’re having tough times or not. Honestly, no straight man wants to choose a video game over being comforted and loved by a beautiful woman. You deserve someone who treats you right all the time, not just when it’s convenient for them.
You’re young, and his parents were supposed to teach him how to be a man not you. If he hasn’t learned it yet, he probably won’t change now, especially if he hasn’t shown you any real effort or growth. You have every right to want more, and it’s okay to put yourself first. Love shouldn’t feel like you’re competing with a console.
