Dear Zari:
I’m a Junior here at Alcorn. I won’t waste your time and get right to it. My roommate and I were the closet of friends and had been since our Freshman year of college. We did everything together. We have the same major, attended social events together, and even went to the same church. I mean she was like a sister to me. About six months ago Claudia (not her real name) met Gio (not his real name) and they, as of late, have been inseparable. She confided in me that she was falling in love with him and could possibly see herself marrying him. With Gio in the picture now I feel as though I’ve lost my best friend. She barely has time for me anymore and when we do see each other it’s always quick. I want my friend to be happy but what about me? Guys come a dime a dozen and he’ll probably just end up breaking her heart. My problem is how Claudia just dismissed me so easily without a second thought for some random guy. Could it be that our friendship wasn’t as solid as I thought it was. What should I do Zari? Should I speak to Claudia about my thoughts on her new found relationship or should I just be quiet and hope that she sees the error in her ways on how she chose a quickie relationship over a solid friendship?
A True Friend
Dear A True Friend:
It sounds like you’re going through a tough time with your friend Claudia. It’s understandable that you feel hurt and left out now that she’s in a new relationship. It’s important to remember that people’s priorities and dynamics can change when they enter into a romantic relationship. However, that doesn’t mean your friendship wasn’t solid or important to her.
Instead of keeping your feelings bottled up, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with Claudia. Let her know how you’re feeling and express your concerns about feeling neglected. Communication is key in any relationship and it’s possible that she may not even realize the impact her actions have had on you.
Remember to approach the conversation with kindness and understanding. It’s important to support Claudia’s happiness while also expressing your own needs. Friendships can evolve and change over time, but with open communication, you may be able to find a balance that works for the both of you.
Zari
