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The Safe Haven: The Advice Column (October 16, 2023)

Dear Zari:

I have somewhat of a dilemma. My name is Bradford (Brad) and I have a girlfriend of 2 years, Tatiana (Tat) and we were inseparable college sweethearts. About a month ago, she and I attended a local church in the Alcorn area, and she joined the church. Ever since then she’s been dedicated to this church and its ‘mission’. She’s changed her entire demeanor, both mentally and physically. She doesn’t go to any parties anymore and really all she does is sit in her room and read the Bible. Last week I got fed up with her newfound ‘change’ when she said that the two of us were living in sin and that if I really loved her that I would wait on her until marriage. Zari I spazzed out. I gave her a piece of my mind. I mean I really love this woman and care for her a lot, but this is ridiculous. She’s willing to throw away 2 years of a relationship for this new commitment to Christ. I don’t want to break up with her and I’m willing to fight for her. Personally, I think she’s being brainwashed whereas she says it’s her growing as a person. Zari what should I do? Should I grant her her wish or should I fight for my woman. I realize I’m fighting an uphill battle, but I really do love her.

Me vs The Church

Dear Me vs The Church:

Wow it sounds like you’re in a tough situation. First, it’s important to respect Tatiana’s newfound commitment to her faith. Showing love and support for one’s faith commitment during a relationship is important because it helps foster understanding, respect, and growth between partners. This also allows both individuals to express their beliefs and values and encourages a deeper connection and shared spiritual journey. By showing love for Tatiana’s faith commitment, you’re also showing love and support for her as a person. Keep the lines of open communication and try to find a balance that works for both of you.

Secondly, instead of seeing it as her being brainwashed. Try to understand her perspective and support her spiritual journey. Have an open and honest conversation with her about your concerns and feelings. Try to find a common ground.

Lastly, you said it yourself that you don’t want to break up with her and you are willing to fight for her. Relationships require effort, compromise, and understanding. Remember to respect her newfound faith commitment and support her spiritual journey.


A'Zarianne Johnson
A'Zarianne Johnson
A'Zarianne Johnson is a Sophomore Mass Communications major from Minden, Louisiana. She will be the Advice Columnist for the 2023-2024 school year.


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